Start with what the listicles get wrong. The internet answers this question with sign inventories — does he text first, does she remember your coffee order — as if love were a scavenger hunt. But people who feel loved don't audit signs. The question itself is the finding: you're asking because the love you may well be receiving isn't arriving in a form you recognize.
Here is the pattern underneath most "does he love me" doubt: people show love the way they most want to receive it — and read its absence in their own dialect. A partner whose love is acts — the fixed car, the handled errand, the steady showing-up — may say the words rarely and mean them totally. A partner whose love is words may declare devotion daily and forget every practical kindness. Each is broadcasting on their native frequency; each is checking the wrong channel for the reply. The result is two people simultaneously loving and feeling unloved — a translation failure wearing the costume of an absence.
So the honest first question isn't "does he love me?" It's "what does love look like when this particular person is doing it?" Watch for consistency in their dialect, not yours: the one who always shows up, the one who defends you in rooms you're not in, the one whose plans quietly include you. Then the second question: have you told them plainly what arrival looks like in your language? Most partners aren't withholding — they're transmitting on the frequency they know.
This is precisely what birth charts map best. Venus placement describes each person's native love language — whether devotion runs through words, acts, loyalty, attention, or touch. Two charts compared show whether you and your partner share a dialect or need a dictionary: some couples' Venus placements mirror each other (love arrives pre-translated), while others love equally hard across a genuine language gap the charts name explicitly. The lunar placements add how each of you needs to be met emotionally, and the deeper synastry shows what being chosen means to each of you. The answer to "does he love me" is usually written there — not as a yes or no, but as the specific description of how his love would look if it were present, so you can finally check the right channel.